Put a Name on It – CMN Women


Put a Name on It

by Ashley Randleman

Six months into our church plant, we hired an Intern (who would later become our associate pastor). Eleven months after that, we hired a youth pastor. Both individuals and their spouses had heart, but not a lot of experience.

It wasn’t too long after they each came on staff that my husband asked me to start meeting with their wives on a regular basis to intentionally pour into them because our church was growing by leaps and bounds and their “greenness” needed to be fast-tracked.

I set up an initial meeting with each of them. I brewed some coffee and got to know their hearts with two questions that I felt the Holy Spirit had impressed me to ask. Since I believe these questions reveal the very floorboards and rafters of your influence, I’ll pose the same questions to you.

What is your deepest fear?

The answer to this question reveals where we are trusting God the least.

If you fear that your church plant will fail, then you aren’t trusting God with your church plant. If you fear that the offering won’t cover the bills, then you aren’t trusting God with your finances. If you fear that your children will grow up and walk away from the faith because of the journey you brought them on, then you aren’t trusting God with your children (or your parenting).

If you fear that your husband will become a part of a statistic and have a moral failure, then you aren’t trusting God with your marriage. If you fear that you will never live up to everyone’s expectations, then you aren’t trusting the One who’s “divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness” (2 Peter 1:3).

Our fears affect us! They affect how we pastor, parent, and how we approach our marriage. They have the ability to hold us back — caging in our influence — by making us insecure and anxious.

What is your biggest dream?

This question is not as important to ask as it is imperative to answer. Because Proverbs 29:18 states, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…”

So what is your biggest dream?

Do you want your church to “make it”? Do you want to pour into hundreds, thousands, or even hundreds of thousands of moms? Youth? Children? Or families? Do you want to write a book, or minister to the Maasai tribe in Kenya?

Then dare to dream it.

I have found that our biggest dream has the ability to yank us up from our deepest fear. I have also found that Jesus is present in both of those places — in the depths of our fears and on the heights of our dreams.

So, go ahead and put a name on it, and then brace yourself because we have a God who likes to one-up us all!

I’ll leave you with this:

“Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” (Ephesians 3:20)

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Ashley Randleman is a pastor’s wife of ten years and a mother of four (Nathan, Josiah, Lydia, and Titus). She and her husband, Jeremiah, planted River Church in February 2014. Ashley has a heart for the mothers and women in her life and church. She pours into them on a weekly basis from the comfort of her living room carpet over strong coffee and meaningful conversation.

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